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Can A Narcissist Become Born Again?

Can a narcissist become born again? Is that possible?

If the choice belonged to the narcissist to hear the Gospel, accept that he or she is a sinner, and repent, then no– it would not be possible for a narcissist to become born again. But thank God, the choice does not belong to any of us to become born again. This article explains why it is possible for narcissists to become born again in Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Not by THEIR choice, but by the choice of God.

What is Narcissism?

Narcissism is a personality disorder. Narcissists are typically self-centered, proud, high-minded, unfeeling, and judgmental. For the most part, they do not sense any emotion other than anger, rage, offense, and narcissistic injury; they find it difficult to feel compassion, empathy or care for another person. They rarely ever perceive themselves to be wrong. They don’t tend to experience guilt or sorrow for their deeds. So, how can a narcissist repent?

Godly Sorrow vs. Human Sorrow

The truth is that NONE OF US can repent on our own. Repentance and godly sorrow that leads to salvation is GIVEN to us by the Holy Spirit. We cannot convict our own selves of sin and decide to repent.

There are plenty of people who believe that they are born again, but they never experienced true repentance and godly sorrow. What they experienced was human sorrow. Human guilt and sorrow does not result in salvation. Only godly sorrow, given to a person by the Holy Spirit during their salvation experience, can lead to rebirth. For the most part, narcissists don’t really experience human sorrow. But that doesn’t mean that God cannot impart to them in a divine way, godly sorrow.

ALL Have Sinned

The bible states that “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked” (Jeremiah 17:9). This scripture is not just talking about the heart of the narcissist. This scripture is talking about the heart of EVERY HUMAN BEING! EVERY human being is born with a sinful nature, separated and alienated from God, with a deceitful, desperately wicked heart and a dark, dead spirit. NONE of us are worthy of salvation, whether we are a “good” person by human standards, or an “evil” person by human standards. ALL have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23).

The Lord died for sinners. Are not narcissists sinners? ANYONE whom God has chosen can be born again, narcissists or any other kind of sinners. We cannot earn or merit salvation. Salvation is about God’s choice, a choice which He made before He framed the worlds (Ephesians 1:4). If you are chosen by God to be born again, He chose you before He even laid the foundations of the Earth, before Adam and Eve were even made. It has nothing to do with our decision or choice.

A New Creation

If God has chosen a narcissist for salvation, that narcissist will be born again at the Holy Spirit’s timing. God is able to break that narcissist down.

During their born again experience, the Holy Spirit will reveal to the narcissist the DEPTH of the sin of who they are, and cause them to mourn over their sinful nature. The Holy Spirit will give the narcissist godly sorrow – sorrow for Jesus Christ of Nazareth having died on the cross for their sins. And the Holy Spirit will give the narcissist supernatural faith to believe in the bodily, physical resurrection of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. This is the SAME process for those who aren’t narcissists.

During your born again experience, the Holy Spirit shows you your sin and your sinful nature, causes you to repent and mourn over your sin, gives you godly sorrow for Jesus Christ of Nazareth having died on the cross for your sins, and gives you supernatural faith to believe in the Lord’s bodily resurrection. God does ALL the work in our salvation.

At the moment a person becomes born again, they are immediately translated from darkness to light. The Holy Spirit gives that person a brand new, clean spirit and a new heart, and a portion of the Holy Spirit comes to dwell in that individual’s born-again spirit. Once a narcissist is born again in Christ, he is NO LONGER a narcissist. He is a new creation. Old things have passed away and all things become new.

Know that none of us can “choose God.” Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be. So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God (Romans 8:7-8). Many people believe that because they “made a decision for Christ” or “accepted Jesus” that they are born again. THIS IS ERROR. The truth is that salvation is granted as a GIFT to sinners, s