T.D. Jakes' comments on Black Women
Recently, Megachurch Pastor T.D. Jakes had a sermon on Father’s Day 2022 entitled “Real Men Pour In.” This came to the ministry’s attention after it set off a wave of backlash across social media as people suggested that Jakes made comments that were misogynistic, disparaging and critical of black women.
Jakes claimed that black families are struggling to exist as a strong, loving unit because men and women are failing to balance each other out for the sake of nurturing a family. He went so far as to say that women are “too masculine.” I went to go view his sermon to see what he had to say for myself.
I was appalled at what I saw and heard.
Here is a list of statements Jakes made about women throughout his sermon:
- “We [men] were not designed to receive from women”
- “Your self-esteem is compromised when you have to ask your wife for lunch money”
- “When Adam started eating out of his wife’s hand, sin came in because the divine order was broken”
- “We [men] are designed to pour into you. And you are designed to take what we pour into you and increase it, and make it better.”
- “This breaks all sociological order of the culture that we’re living in now, because we are raising up women to be men.”
- “And you are not applauded for your femininity. You are applauded by the contemporary society for how tough, rough, nasty, mean, aggressive, hateful, possessive you are and you’re climbing the corporate ladder, but we are losing our families.”
- “I know you can buy your own car, I know you can buy your own house, but until you create a need that I can pour into, I have no place in your life.”
How can we not receive from a woman, when we received life from one? How can one’s self-esteem be so fragile that it breaks when asking for help from a lover? Why should a woman be shamed for pursuing a career, autonomy and independence in a society that has long sought to take these things from her?
I was disturbed that Jakes could say these things with a straight face. When the camera shot out into the audience, I saw many young women who are in their formative years watching him and listening. I worry for how many people are believing in his message.
The underlying issue with T.D. Jakes’ opinion of black women and how they act is that he is operating on a very narrow, archaic point of view on what the “role” of a woman is in modern society. There is nothing Godly about what he said.
It is a sad thing that the progress women have made to make a better life for themselves is still getting pushed back against on such a large scale.
History has shown that women have been oppressed and limited throughout the ages, expected to be subservient to a husband and re